Much of the initial fire of a relationship is related to the chase. We cannot help but love the idea of someone wanting to spend time with us and enjoy our company. The real passion ignites when you love their company equally and don’t care what you are doing so long as it is together.

Romantic ideas come very easy in the early stages of a relationship with both sides wanting to prove their undying love to the other. And the, like some small but growing leech whose appetite seems to grow year by year, the passion seems to be sucked away as time wears on.

The stresses of work, finances, children, and the endless errands start to take a toll on both people in a relationship until it begins to feel like more of a business partnership more concerned with economic interests than in anything resembling romance. Unless small but meaningful gestures are continually made by both sides, partners will begin to feel taken for granted and neglected. When the spark is gone or dying a slow but agonizing death, it is time to use some simple romantic ideas to sizzle up that love life and remind each other why you were doing it all in the first place!

A hot, steamy love letter sent through the mail can take mere minutes to write but be rewarded with days of pampering and hot nights. Sexuality is an important part of us all and any time another person pays attention to this, we cannot help but feel flattered. The adrenaline will begin to pump through the body as a person reads how their lover wants to ravage them. By the time they get finished, they will feel both appreciated and sexy and prepared to reward you for your efforts!

What about going out to dinner at your favorite restaurant with an intimate setting. Order your favorite wine or champagne and enjoy a gourmet meal.

Or you may prefer a night in. Make your bedroom into a love nest with turned down sheets covered by silk rose petals, candles and a lovely set of wine or champagne glasses with your favorite bottle of wine or champagne chilling in a ice bucket. Feast together on gourmet chocolates, enjoy some romantic games and finish up with a sensuous massage. We’ll leave you to image what will happen next.

The important thing to remember is to plan activities to share that are both romantic and fun. This is the key to keeping your love life are a high sizzle.

Randy Gardner