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Seduction is Alluring

The dance between the sexes is a wonderful thing when it comes to the subject of seduction. Making ourselves alluring and attractive to the one we desire is both fun and exciting. If that wasn’t the case, then there wouldn’t be as much need for glamorous lingerie stores, hair dressers, rows and rows of cosmetic shelves in department stores, stores that sell sexy clothing and hundreds of fragrances from name brand manufacturers.

It all depends on what turns on the object of your desire. Some women love a man with a full beard, whereas, others couldn’t tolerate all that facial hair. Some men are switched on by a female in black, lacy lingerie and five inch heels while other men couldn’t care less as they would rather have less packaging to deal with. A pair of sexy legs is appealing to a man. Women seem to prefer manly posteriors (okay, butts). It is all very subjective and based on personal preferences.

So, in order to be seductive, you will have to do your homework and know what turns on his/her switch. You will need to get to know the person to accomplish this.

Seduction is Romantic

Romance is the fine art of genuinely treating the object of your love with a sweet caringness that arouses the desire in them to want to be with you. If you want to seduce him/her, be romantic!

Seduction is Visual

To be seductive, you have to look appealing and sexy.

And most importantly, have Fun!

By Beverly Smith

Beauty is not always about how you look, what you are wearing or how you smell. Despite society’s current emphasis on what looks good, hip or cool, beauty that puts so much stock on the physical and takes into account only these small things is at best superficial.

What definitely counts as true, real beauty is not judged by how the palette you used for your makeup matches your skin colouring, or if the clothes you wear flatter your figure, or if your hairdo is nice and trendy. These are only our feathers; they make us look beautiful, but not entirely so. Physical beauty fades. We can diet all we want, we can stay the aging for as much as we can, but that is a fact of life: like a flower past its bloom that is slowly wilting away, physical beauty passes from its full bloom and slowly fades away.

What counts for true beauty is what you are inside, the peace and serenity that you hold inside your heart. Having peace and serenity inside your heart is not just some newfangled new age thing. It has benefits to both your body and your mind.

Having inner peace and serenity reduces the amount of stress you are experiencing and strengthens your mind and your person into taking more challenges and facing them more solidly and staunchly as they come. We all know the merits of living a stress-free life. If our bodies experience as little stress as possible, it makes us less susceptible to diseases like respiratory infections, digestive problems, and even all sorts of cancer. Stress, after all, weakens our immune system, and it is our immune system that keeps the disease-causing bacteria and microbes in check. Living a stress-free life drives the diseases away.

The more visible benefit of having inner peace and serenity in our hearts and minds is that the quiet we have inside us radiates outward. It makes us warm, it makes our skin glow radiantly, and it makes us smile. More importantly, it makes us look younger.

Another thing about gaining inner peace and serenity is that you do not have to spend money to be able to get it. How much do we spend on new outfits every year? How much do we spend on makeup, skin care and cosmetics? How much does cosmetic surgery cost nowadays? Gaining inner peace and serenity does not cost money, only time.

Unfortunately, our daily lives do not afford us much time for the simple rituals necessary in attaining inner peace and serenity. All of us are always busy rushing from task to task, struggling to fill in our roles as wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, career women, and whatever roles we need to fill in our lives. There are so many things that need to be done and yet so little time to do it.

But the rituals needed to gaining inner peace and serenity are so simple and do not take much time. It can be as simple as taking a walk by yourself at the same time every day, leaving everything behind and focusing on just taking in the sights, the sounds and the smells you encounter as you do your walks. Or it could be as simple as closing your eyes for five minutes each day at the same day, not to take a power nap but to blank your mind out for just a short while, just to give your mind a rest.

Gaining inner beauty and serenity is not a quick fix, but it is not hard to do. All it takes is the commitment to set some time for yourself and to connect your mind to everything that is around you. The benefits are so great, a lot more beneficial than constant dieting or having Botox on your skin. Be beautiful, not just on the outside, but also within.

By Anna Lynn C. Sibal

Women have always made their best to look sexy and attractive, but what makes a woman hot?

Is it perhaps her face, or her curves? Certainly both do play a role and confidence is very important as well.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; however, hot women are women who elicit a general response of appreciation and desire from men.

1. Clean up your act

Get rid of all the junk that accumulates in your bedroom. Don’t use it as a dumping ground for kids’ art projects, laundry, newspapers and magazines. No one feels sexy going to bed in a warehouse. First get everything up off the floor, store the things that warrant it and trash the things that don’t. Clear of the surfaces of chests and tables, and only replace what is meaningful or pretty.

You don’t want to see anything that reminds you of chores or obligations. Everything your eye lands on should make you feel relaxed and confident.

2. Can the can lights

Overheard lighting is notoriously unflattering. There’s nothing sexy about a well-lit room. You want shadows, highlights and the soft glow of filtered light. Place a pair of lamps with ivory shades on each side of your bed, and make sure the bulbs are no more than 60 watts.

For even more impact, replace the white bulbs with pink tinted bulbs. Everybody looks good in this light — the only thing more flattering is candlelight, and pink light bulbs don’t pose a fire hazard.

3. Scents and sensibility

Take the same approach to smell that you took to sight. Get rid of anything that doesn’t smell great. Remove the laundry hamper to a bathroom or closet. Evict the dog, just for one night. Wash everything, down to the mattress pad in good detergent. And make up your bed with the sheets folded back the sheets invitingly, the way they do in fine hotels.

Choose a scented candle with care. One that’s too floral will be off-putting to a man. A better bet is one that smells fresh and clean, like Jo Malone’s Grapefruit candle. The flicker of candlelight will enhance your sexy lighting scheme.

4. Soundtrack

The “Law & Order” theme song is not sexy music. Turn off the television! Better yet, banish it from the bedroom. The bedroom should be for two things only: sleep and sex. Install a small stereo in your bedroom and play your favorite music — it’s a great mood enhancer.

If you’re worried about being overheard by children or neighbors, add sound insulation. Hang curtains and a thick rug — fabric absorbs sound. A padded headboard helps in this department too.

5. Ban the Beanie Babies

The bedroom is your own private sanctuary, but beware what message you’re sending by using it as a display case for your hobbies. Stuffed animals are a no-no, as are too many tiny pillows. What looks good in a bedding store just looks fussy and high-maintenance at home — not the message you’re trying to send.

6. Take a look

Add a mirror somewhere. It doesn’t have to be attached to the ceiling, but a cleverly positioned mirror, or even a mirrored piece of furniture, can really spice things up. It will add glimmer and shine, both sexy qualities. Plus, you might discreetly catch of a glimpse of the proceedings.

A closet door left “accidentally” ajar, with its inside mirror angled toward the bed, can give you a thrill without risking embarrassment.

By Lydia Somerville